Why

Being positive in your comments regarding personal concerns or projects that you are seeking to handle in your daily activities with your spouse or partners or neighbors or friends is always a good approach to effectively dealing with the matters, because it enables you all to avoid the problems that are created by having to deal with the effects of the negative comments in your relationships and work together. Everyone tends to take negative comments personally, which means that they apply them to themselves as criticisms of them and not just comments about their behavior. So the efforts of the individuals become those that are intended to defend themselves from the personal criticism rather than to find a way to effectively deal with the personal concerns or to fix the problem that is the focus of their joint work. This shift of focus from common concerns for good teamwork to deal with common problems in one’s daily situation to having to deal with personal negative criticisms regarding the nature and quality of the individuals themselves who are seeking to work together can be so judgemental and so bad that they can permanently destroy the relationships between the individuals who are so caught in such negative verbal exchanges.

The words that we use in our comments with others are very important expressions of how we regard them and how we want to relate to them in our daily lives. If they express the qualities of mutual personal respect and caring for each other and the sincere hope for some positive benefits from the joint work that is free from any efforts to manipulate or to control the behavior of others, then they will always produce good benefits in their teamwork otherwise they may damage the relationships. Perhaps some of you have experienced the destructive effects of negative comments from others with whom you were engaged in personal relationships that you treasured and enjoyed. It is never easy to forgive others for such abuse, and sometimes the broken relationship can never be repaired. That is why it is always good to focus the points of your comments to others with whom you are working on common concerns on what you intend to do with your resources and personal abilities to express your personal responsibilities in regard to the matter without seeking in any way to control or to manipulate what they choose to do as individuals in the common situation. Every individual in any relationship with another human being is always unique and his or her resources and insights and wants and emotions will always be somewhat personal in regard to how they are invested in expression of joint work in their daily life. That is why keeping your comments regarding matters of common concern and teamwork positive is always good.

Let’s talk about this

How have you seen the positive qualities of your comments with others in your teamwork with them on common matters of concern and work made a beneficial difference in your relationships and work together? How did the expression of negative comments affect your relationships and teamwork in your situation? What is the most beneficial comment that a person can make in his or her efforts to promote good relationships and teamwork with others?

Additional help

Here is a link to a statement on my website that may help interested viewers to select very positive words for the comments that they share with others in regard to their teamwork with them: https://www.christianityetc.org/meditate-to-feel-good.php . Do not brag about what you intend to personally invest in your teamwork. Stay humble, because you are only one individual in the team, and such words of boasting may be interpreted as your efforts to manipulate the behavior of others.