Banning gay marriages

Banning gay marriages: same-sex marriages of homosexual men and lesbian women should not be done because such relationships are considered to be “sinful” by some citizens. Adultery is considered to be “sinful” by some citizens, but I don’t believe that it is against any laws. It may break up a marriage, destroy a family, or end a career, but I don’t believe that anyone is strictly breaking any law by committing adultery. Marriage vows would normally be broken by such an act, and the abused spouse could sue for divorce, but the guilty spouse would not be arrested just for having sex with another consenting adult. On the other hand, it is against the law for an adult to have sexual relations with a minor, even if the minor individual consents to it.

Banning gay marriages

Laws of society are basically enacted by legislative bodies to protect its citizens from harm and abuse. And many of these laws are specifically written to protect children and women from abuse. It may be commonly recognized that when a man has sexual relations with a woman, it establishes a dependent relationship between that man and the woman and their child. And society has a stake in that relationship, because the woman and particularly the child may become dependents of the State,  if the man doesn’t provide for their care. Many welfare laws are written and enforced to protect women and children from abuse by men, even in relationships that are consummated in accord with “common law” and that don’t necessarily produce children.

Therefore, since the relations of consenting men with men and consenting women with women, even if such relations are sexual in nature, doesn’t involve any particular risk of abuse for any of the adults and no children can be produced from such relationships, adults who choose to enter such relationships should not be given the protecting legal rights that are particularly written for men and women who choose to get married. Homosexual and lesbian relationships can be easily broken without any legal consequences or responsibilities to be imposed on anyone, but that is not the case in any marriage relationship. That is due to the rights of the dependents in such marriage relationships.

I haven’t seen these principles of social law being applied to the growing problems and controversial concerns that our society and our citizens are facing in regard to the proposal that the rights of marriage should now be extended to include relationships between adult men with adult men and adult women with adult women. Let’s move away from the moral issue of “sin” in this matter, and take a very careful look at the real factor of social legal protections that are the basis for our traditional laws of marriage. Since marriage laws are basically written to protect dependent children and women from abuse, and since there are no risks of such dependent needs for children and women in homosexual and lesbian relationships, therefore the rights and legal protections of marriage should not be granted to gay adult men and women in their relationships with other gay adults. Marriages between gay men and lesbian women should be banned because of this reason. What do you think about this argument? Should we be banning gay marriages? Let’s talk about this!

Good relations

Everyone wants to have good relations, especially with family members and a few friends. Isn’t that right? But they apparently are not automatically established. Individuals are different, even those in the same family. They do not always see things in the same way. They may often respond to circumstances and encounters differently. And individuals are subject to changes in their moods, interests, and needs as they grow older. So establishing good relations is an ongoing challenging process, but it is an important part of being a human and living with other humans.

What are the qualities that are present in good relations?

What do you think that it takes to establish good relations with other individuals? What personal  attitudes and behavior are necessary within and from individuals if they are going to be able to establish and to maintain good relations with others?

I would suggest that a person who wants to have good relations with others must first be a person who has the virtue of  character. Then he or she must be able and willing to share the gifts of forgiveness and encouragement to others for their offensive actions and attitudes and their efforts to make good changes in their lives and relationships. For further insight into these qualities see these statements on my website: “character”, “forgiveness”, and “encouragement”. Let’s talk about this.


Spam as a precooked meat product from Hormel Foods, Inc. is tasty, convenient, and not too expensive. It is easy to store. In slices it fits well between two pieces of bread, and it is easy to put on a plate. I can remember eating it years ago in lunches that I carried to school.

But Spam that is received as “unsolicited” “electronic” “messages” that are “indiscriminately” distributed by “electronic messaging systems”, particularly in bulk numbers, is not recognized as being good. In fact Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia, indicates that “spamming is universally reviled.” (

Spam, the dilemma

A can of Spam may be good on the shelf of your pantry or your refrigerator from time to time, but no one wants cartons of it dumped at their door every morning! No one seems to want their email boxes  on their computers or their comment messages on their blogs or their cell phones filled up with such “unsolicited” messages. But it takes some special tools and some persistent work to block the appearance of such messages, Spam, in one’s communication devices. Most of us have probably accepted all of the advertising that is displayed on the television stations that we watch. Except for public broadcasting stations and religious broadcasts, such displays take up too many minutes of television programs; and then the PB stations have their call-in fund-raising drives and the TV preachers solicit contributions. So it is impossible to avoid Spam and a lot of “unsolicited” advertising today!

But many of us would still like to know what there is “out there” that is “good” that we can buy to eat or otherwise consume, or to use, or to view, or to hear, or to read, or to visit, or to enjoy, or to think about, or to experience, or to touch, or to say, or to want, or to receive. Most of us have our “want list”, so we do a lot of searching on the Internet, through the magazines and catalogues, in the printed fliers that fill our local mail boxes every week for what might be “good” that we could get to satisfy our “wants”.  A few relevant ads for some products may help in our searches, but most of us don’t want any Spam!

The particular purpose of this blog is to get individuals engaged in thinking about and talking about what is really “good” in their lives. As we do this, I think that it will make us wiser buyers, more satisfied customers, happier family members, better citizens, and more faithful stewards of God’s resources. I invite you to talk with me about “what is good” in your lives. What is a “good” tool to block spam? What is a “good” ad in your search for resources to meet your wants and needs? Let’s talk about Spam and these other matters that seem to dominate so much of our attention and drive so many of our desires.

Common sense?

In light of what Congress is doing in our country, the current economic crisis that we all are facing, and the approaching elections, it would be well for us to take a look at some of the benefits of common sense in all of these matters. Here are a few of the qualities of common sense that I think make it so good. Common sense knows the difference between a wise investment and one that is probably too risky and too expensive. Citizens with common sense recognize that everything has a cost, and there are no “free lunches”.

People with common sense know what is ultimately fair and what is basically unfair

A person doesn’t have to a be lawyer to know what is honest and what is dishonest. Anyone with common sense immediately knows the difference. A worker with common sense knows what is probably going to work and what is likely to fail. Individuals with common sense know that it is very difficult to force anyone to do anything against their will even though it might be the wise and beneficial thing to do.  Individuals with common sense understand that change is inevitable, but forward progress that will ultimately be beneficial takes wise leadership and a lot of hard work over the course of time.

Citizens with common sense recognize that more people who are working together in common endeavors will make decisions that are better for them than letting a few individuals who have some power to make those decisions for them. If it can be recognized that these are some good benefits that come from common sense, then why is it that so few of our representatives in Congress and leaders from around the world seem to have this resource as they make important decisions?  What do you think is good about common sense? How can we spread this resource round? Let’s talk about this.

Good photo

What makes a good photo?

couple in carriage

Just married

(Christof Stache,AFP/Getty images/ July14,2010)

Germany’s defender Philipp Lahm kisses his wife Claudia, former Claudia Schattenberg, in a carriage after their marriage in the church of Kleinhelfendorf in southern Germany. Lahm came back from the FIFA world Cup in South Africa on July 12, where his team placed third.

This was one of 118 photos that was published by the Chicago Tribune in a feature entitled “Photos in the News” on their website for July 14, 2010. Viewers were invited to leave comments regarding the photo in the feature.

I did not leave a comment, but I thought that this might be appropriate: “Congratulations to a VERY happy couple”.  Or maybe this would be appropriate: “Oops, another ‘wardrobe malfunction’.

What do you think? What would you comment about this photo? Is this a good photo?

Perhaps Philipp and his new bride, Claudia, would be more pleased to have this photo in their personal album of photos from their wedding where they could reflect on the moment through the years and share it and other pictures with members of their families and other friends than to have it published on the Internet for all the world to see.

Philipp and Claudia are obviously a very happy and beautiful couple, as the photographer caught them in this special moment following their wedding.  But this photo has a lot more to illustrate than just the joy of the moment.

I would invite you to consider a statement that I have written about “A Good Marriage” on my website as you consider your response to this picture. It can be viewed here: a good marriage

I would suggest that one of the great qualities of this photo is that it captures the special blessing that comes to couples as they give and receive the special personal expressions of their love and affection for each other. I think that most viewers of this photo will recognize that it is much different than many of the “kissing” photos that are displayed and preserved in most wedding albums. It portrays qualities of tenderness and respect that are very important in any “good” marriage.

As you reflect on this photo and my statement on “A Good Marriage”, what do you see in this photo that illustrates some of the principles that I have given in this statement? Let’s talk about this photo and what it takes to have “a good marriage.

Emotional support

If you are engaged in giving or receiving emotional support with someone, you are engaged in a process that is a special gift to both of you. You just may be trying to encourage a friend or your spouse who has recently lost his or her job. Maybe a neighbor just came down with a “bug”, and needs some help for a few days. Or maybe one of your coworkers just went through a divorce. Or maybe you are responsible for the ongoing care of an parent who has become disabled by a serious stroke or disease, and they will need a lot of emotional support everyday as they struggle with their changing circumstances. All of the various problems that are currently troubling our society are creating a growing group of thousands of people who are in daily need of some emotional support from someone else. Their cases are reported everyday on the news, particularly if they live in any of the gulf states.

Part of their needs may be financial, but the bigger, more important part, is probably more personal. It has to do with how they are going to adjust to their changing situation. Oil companies, banks, government agencies, and even churches, synagogues, or mosques can’t provide the quality of emotional support that is needed by many people today. Such emotional support can best be provided by a friend who really cares and with whom you don’t need an “appointment” to see.

For some additional commentary on this matter see my statements on encouragement and care givers on my website. There is a big need for this good gift of emotional support in our society today. How much “paper work” should be completed before one can get this type of support? Why can’t the big agencies with money and personnel provide this kind of support? What does a person need in order to provide good emotional support to someone else? Let’s talk about this matter.

Good entertainment

We’re into the summer season of TV programs, but what do you find that offers good entertainment?

I have a hard time finding anything that is really good enjoyable entertainment. We don’t have many channels for our programs, but I don’t think that having more channels makes much difference. There is only more of the “same” from which to choose, more movies, more sports, more crime dramas, more “sexy” comedies, more reruns, more talk, more contests, etc. And of course there are more advertisements everywhere.

There is no good entertainment left?

Apparently more and more people are making the decision to listen to their favorite music on their iPod’s, or to just spend their free time talking with their friends on Facebook, or tweeting on Twitter, but the content of much of these “messages” may not be very enjoyable or even positive. There doesn’t seem to be much that is “good” these days to talk about or to write about for the hours of TV broadcasting that must be filled everyday. What entertainment do you find that is really good? What makes it enjoyable? How does it affect your mood at the time? Is the effect positive? How long does it last? Is there any good entertainment left? Let’s talk about this matter.